Shower Power: Take Note of These Shower No-nos

1. Immediate family should NOT host a shower. This includes sisters, mothers and future mother-in-laws.

2. No one should be invited to a shower who is not also invited to the wedding. (Exceptions include extremely small weddings to which friends are not invited but want to throw a shower anyway and office showers where co-workers may want to honor the bride but will not likely be invited to the wedding.)

3. Consult the bride on the guest list, because no one should be invited to more than one shower, as each one requires a gift. Attendants may go in on joint gifts if they are invited to more than one shower.

4. In general, you are still expected to send a gift if you cannot attend the shower. Send it to the hostess — not the bride — so that it is there for the bride to open at the shower. However, if it is a large shower and you are not close to the bride, you do not have to send a gift (but do respond to the invitation).

Source: Emily Post’s Etiquette by Peggy Post.

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